The process of 'aging' does not belong only to the older generation because we all begin the aging process at the moment we are born. Studies have shown that changes in our metabolism begin at age 20 and in our cognition at age 40. In 1900, the average life expectancy was 47.3 years of age. Statistical findings aside, there is much we have learned in the ensuing years about how psychological, emotional and medical factors can influence whether or not we, as individuals, experience 'Successful Aging.' In this Lunch and Learn program, our Speaker, Daniel Flores, M.Div., M.A. and Counselor, told us that researchers have discovered aging does not happen at a constant rate but in bursts, occurring most significantly and on average around the ages of 34, 60, and 78. He stated that, although we may function throughout our lives according to Winner, Loser or Non-Winner scripts, intentional changes can be made, if needed, to foster increased sense of accomplishment and self-worth.
Ultimately, our life's journey is best served when we embrace the tenants of Maslow's Hierarchy of Six Basic Human Needs:
- Certainty - comfort, security, familiarity, routine
- Variety - surprise, variation, change
- Significance - importance, meaning, value
- Love and Connection - to love and be loved and to belong
- Growth and Development - to improve, max your potential
- Contribution - give beyond the self, concentration on "the other"
Daniel talked about the overriding importance of operating out of a place of mindfulness and having meaningful relationships, not only with others, but also with ourselves. We experience our greatest fulfillment and joy from living lives based on certain beliefs and ultimate belief in the Divine. Taking care of our souls can be as nurturing and necessary as caring for our physical bodies. It is never too late to adopt a mindset about aging which will "add life to your years and years to your life!"
If you would like to listen to the audio from Daniel's presentation, it can be found here. The PowerPoint slides from the presentation can be found here.